Laying a Friendship to Rest – a gentle ritual for closure at the end of a happy friendship

You Will Need:

  • A yellow candle
  • A gift for your friend 
  • A box of their things you need to return 
  • If they’re doing the ritual with you, you can also put their box of things they need to return to you in your workspace.

Step One: Light the yellow candle. This is supposed to be a symbol of the friendship and should be left to burn out on its own, to gently give both parties closure for the end of the friendship. 

Step Two: Place your gift in front of the candle and lay your hands on it. (It doesn’t have to be a big gift. Personally, I’m a big fan of mix CDs.) Focus on sending well-wishes with your gift. 

Step Three: Say

Remember me fondly, and I will do the same for you.
Speak of me fondly, and I will do the same for you. 
Wish me well in life, and I will do the same for you. 

Though we must go our separate ways, let us do so happily, without resentment or hate. 
Let everything that was borrowed between us be returned to its out. 
Let us part without debts or secrets.
Let us part as friends, each of us taking nothing but our memories from the other.

Step Four: Let your candle burn out. When you say your goodbyes, exchange the things that were borrowed between you and give your parting gift. (If you’re working the ritual together, you good have a goodbye meal together to follow.) 


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